As seems by the title, the following paragraphs might not actually be about friends and enemies, in fact it’s about those developed relations which get overwrought and tense with the passage of time; thus reach to the point of no return. Nevertheless the psychologies behind this switch it not very hard to grasp. A simple study can reveal many things.

Being in somebody's company

If we have look at the past, we observe that initially two individuals interact with one another owing to some reasons. They are either family members, or they are class fellows, they might have travelled together, or work in the same place, might be bus mates or any other. Point to explain here is that there always is some common interests, likings or disliking that binds both of them. A perfect win-win situation is maintained as long as these interests are there and things are totally hunky dory. But the same perfect situation takes a slight turn when one of the both tries to gain and the other one doesn’t gain and is also reluctant to lose.

The Depression

The downturn starts when one person gains and the other stands to lose. The distressed person starts to think about every possible rationale which is responsible for this lopsided condition. Over the passage of time he starts thinking that some sort of injustice is being handed over at him. Not only this he starts visualizing his friend as if he is having some undue and unfair advantage which he is misusing every time.

Pre-judgment

This mind set develops when one person starts making some mental image about the other person in one’s mind. At the same time the other friend also starts re-collection every single negative and disagreeable dealings between the two. Both of them start viewing each other with a pair of colored glasses, which keeps on t telling them that how good they are and how bad is the other. These colored glasses perform another task of reminding them about various past events when they themselves were right but the other person was at the wrong path. In such circumstances when both sides have pre-assumptions and verdicts about each other, it is hardly impossible to develop a rational mindset.

Diverse transactions

Some time any transaction gives a negative outcome. This negative outcome doesn’t make the person himself bad. The person’s personality is a separate domain then that of the transaction. This indicates that on some specific day these two people held entirely different opinion on some specific topic. Now the problem starts when both of them instead of saying that “we agree to disagree” plunged into a fight and started abusing and termed each other as bad. None of them was actually bad, but it was only that transaction which produced a negative outcome.

Therefore its important for us not to pass quick judgments about the other person as some transactions are bound to place negative outcomes.

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